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The Reality of Attraction and Dating In a Post Modern Society – Cập nhật mới nhất 2024

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Many men today are confused as to how to attract and deal

with women. Today our women are more beautiful (through

natural selection and beautification), capable and empowered

than at any point in history, and though this is a wonderful

thing, it’s had many ramifications when it comes to


Countless guys including ‘great catches’ are frustrated as

to how to deal with, attract and succeed with these

desirable women. In fact many men are so frustrated that we

now have 40 year old virgins. The major social dilemma that

I see exists is this:

Men are wondering “what is wrong with the women (and why do

they treat us like this)”? and women are wondering, “Where

are all the real men?”

Guys want to be a nice guy and they will even do what

society tells them to when it comes to dating and attracting

women yet almost none of it works. In fact it usually repels

women away or incites them to reluctantly partake in the

free gifts they’re getting in exchange for their own time

even though the women are bored, not really interested and

definitely not attracted.

Societal ‘dating’ is a lot of presumptuous false

expectations and ideals that cater to her social leanings

and not what her heart truly desires (also because few of

these men have ‘character’).

Despite what the experts say, it often ends up being what

neither of them want (to appease arcane social norms) and

the guy goes home with an emptier wallet and a good night

hug and she’ll end up (having sex) with a jerk who she is

biologically attracted to.

If he’s ‘lucky’ he can maybe this beautiful woman’s friend.

“Let’s just be friends”…the kiss of death for him if he

only wanted something else.

So in order for men to be more effective with dating they’re

going to have to do some different things. And I’m not

talking about becoming someone they’re not so they have to

‘seduce’ women or act like a jerk, be a playboy or even to

‘give her some of her own medicine’.

Women are just wondering why that can’t find a man they are

attracted to who actually IS healthy and stable.

First of all society promotes ‘courtship’ which is a

socially derived function which worked great throughout

modern history when people lived in the same communities and

the focus was immediately on raising a family. Simply put,

things changed.

Today’s independent women are more interested in exercising

their freedoms and seeing what happens instead of putting up

with all of the implied expectations dealing with having to

marry each guy they go out with.

Take a look at the hit ‘Sex and the City’. Quite a long ways

from ‘Leave it to Beaver’ (and modern programming would have

been blasphemy back then; that’s how far we’ve come).

So I don’t know why dating experts keep teaching dating as

courtship; it’s just so antiquated. Is it really to

‘protect’ women (who are more independent and powerful than

ever before anyways)?

Maybe they just don’t want to face the reality of what women


Yes, most women eventually want to get married but they want

it to happen casually and naturally when they meet a guy now

to see how it develops (with someone she’s interested in)

INSTEAD OF having guys wooing and courting her from date

number one with flowers, dinner, walking on eggshells and lots

of incoming phone calls from someone she’s not interested in

(unless she’s letting her parents or social expectations rule

the decision).

Usually that’s a LOT of pressure and expectation to deal

with plus the guy’s are coming on too heavy and it’s SO

predictable…they all seem the same to her just about and

it’s very tiring. Now it’s the good guys who are getting

their hearts trampled (see pop music) by these women.

In a traditional ‘dating’ situation (which we know

mainstream society promotes) she’s not necessarily being

herself (although her grandma may have been), she’s being

what society tells her to be (although times have changed)

and how to act.

Plus the man isn’t getting anywhere either because he’s

putting a fake foot forward to essentially buy her attention.

He’s not being his true self upfront and those things will

surface later on both ends anyways. With the progression of

independence and advancement in both men and women, there’s

more ‘demons’ that are being hidden as well as incompatible

personality traits.

Not to mention that everyone looking for a ‘date’ is only

looking for an interpersonal solution for themselves…they

don’t really know the other person, just what they are


So, if a man follows society’s advice of (courtship)

‘dating’ women, it’s like living an incongruency (or lie)

with what he REALLY wants and what she wants unless they

really ARE looking and about ready to get married.

Most single, young (and now older) men want to have physical

relationships and aren’t looking to get married right away

until they really get to know a woman and courting her isn’t

really getting to know her.

If there was a price on love then a lot of people would be

permanently out of luck. Women know that love doesn’t cost a

thing and I believe it (ie. J.Lo’s natural and not social

side) yet people will continue to try and buy her affection.

Today, desirable and empowered women want to express their

(newfound) sexual freedom without having to have this guy

dragging her down. Basically girls really DO just want to

have fun but there’s so much PRESSURE.

Now a man can do this without having to seduce her or be the

nice guy of courting her and getting both of them nowhere.

Most importantly he doesn’t have to become someone he’s not

or being an abusive jerk just to succeed.

If men and women could just be upfront, casual and honest

with each other in their intentions they could both have a

lot of fun and get to know each other without false


And another important point, sex isn’t likely to happen with

traditional courtship dating because society tells her to

delay sex so she can hold onto a keeper (which makes sense

for COURTSHIP). The focus is more on their

social/fake/expected relationship and less on who they

really are as people.

When guys take the ‘dating route, it’s like they have a

hidden agenda to get somewhere with her taking this route

and she knows it and in the wrong metaframe of courtship

with him pursuing, it makes her want him less.

It looks like he’s hiding his true self and paying for her

attention. She often feels obligated to give him at least a

hug in exchange for everything he bought her and yet she’ll

run off with a more dangerous man she is attracted to

because of the way SHE feels when she’s around him.

She doesn’t get these feelings of intoxication from the

wooing, low independent character men who are responding to

their perception of her. She wants to be respected and

treated as an equal (and nice guys put her above themselves)

so she often ends up pursuing an independent man.

Women have changed dramatically in a social and personal

matter so that they now have tremendous power, capability

and favor in life. They’re marrying later and less

interested in men wooing them when it comes to attraction

and dating (unless they want to take material advantage of

the resources men are throwing at them).

A woman will often wonder if she will ever find a real man

who she can just have a fun and REAL time with which may or

may not naturally end up in sex. She doesn’t want men

following her around like a whipped puppy, having them by

the string and not respecting her own independence.

Gold-diggers might like this to maintain high social status

but healthy women don’t feel attraction for these men. It’s


The power has shifted and it’s changed almost everything.

Tradition is thrown off course and nature itself is being

slapped in the face by social culture and it’s influence

(just turn on the t.v. and you’ll be inundated with it


Men are wondering what went wrong and if they themselves are

the problem when it comes to dating. Their entire psyche and

outlook on reality has been affected and this affects all

areas of their life.

All of this is NOT desirable to a lot of these women who have

really improved themselves in all of the aspects of their

life…a woman doesn’t want to settle for LESS, she wants

men that are worthy of her time and not afraid of her for

just being herself (who she has become).

Little does she know though that she would be a completely

different woman if she were raised in another culture.

Little do men realize that they would have natural success

with women without really trying if they went to many other

cultures in the world.

They would be SHOCKED to find that ‘it just happens’. This

is what nature or intelligent design intended. This

realization on my part is what I call ‘cultural


The socio-cultural ‘forced reality’ which began in America

around the 1960’s has influenced the relationship dynamics

of countless millions of people now around much of the

world. It’s the impetus of a 50% divorce rate.

Thankfully there is still the natural reality of attraction;

the ability within man and woman to know what to do when it

comes to attraction. It’s within all of us and more

important than the social pervasive reality that defines

almost all current relations in these societies.

For man to truly begin to succeed with women and attraction,

he must cut through all of the junk, see the matrix for

himself and understand his relation to it.

The fact that women respond to men of high natural character

still doesn’t change; it never will or we would be threatened

with the thought of extinction (note the birth rate is

increasing rapidly in traditional or natural cultures the


Independent career women have less time to raise more kids

in their natural/traditional role as mother and nurturer

(reference; the neighbors in ‘Cheaper by the Dozen’).

Choosing a path of seduction or ‘pick up arts’ in order to

get the end result is now not the only option. There is

another and more powerfully effective way.

You see, current social byproduct (response solutions) like

pick up and seduction have become very popular because the

way women are responding to these men.

Women not being interested, ignoring them, and rejecting

them is very real (and common) so some men have found

another way to counteract it and deal with it (responding to

woman’s general social power as the stimulus). The unnatural

transgression of sexual energy had to find an outlet.

In order to become a successful seducer or ‘PUA’ generally a

man has to study a system of countless techniques and

psychological triggers to try to bring a woman’s level of

interest and attraction up to where it matters.

He will have to face a lot of rejection through his training

to start seeing results…results that work with women

starting on the social level where she has the favor and he

will often try to break down her social identity and her

belief in it so that her judgment becomes more clouded and

in his favor.

If he can ‘talk her into’ it to a point where he comes close

to her expectational/ideal response, then he may ‘get

lucky’. This is the hard road and it’s not natural, although

with practice he can be more effective than being a nice guy

of confused/diminished character who follows the outdated

courtship dating (not mating) ritual.

Overly ‘wooful’, courting men (nice guys) or PUA’s (pick-up

artists) are BOTH trying to work against the natural energy

of what women really want by trying to deal with her on the

social level where she has received the power and they are

now essentially below her (and almost always act it).

She likes the attention and social proof plus all the gifts

and meals at times from the nice guys but there’s a part of

her that is hollow and missing something (no pun intended).

She’s not really attracted to these men and he doesn’t

understand why he keeps buying her all these gifts and she

doesn’t call back and dumps him.

There’s no win/win situation there. I teach my men to keep

things interdependent and not to abuse their power

(potentially over women) when they attain awareness but to

respect women and add value to their lives.

If a woman can just find a man who is upfront, honest and

congruent with who he is and how he lives she’ll respect him

(probably be greatly relieved from social pressures) and

then can decide whether to join him on his adventures or

not…and he doesn’t get rejected.

In the game of attraction and who she is attracted to (who

she chooses and not what she or society says), her decisions

are almost always made on the natural level (although

unhealthy gold-diggers base their decisions on the social

level and teenage boy band fans will become infatuated with

a star’s independent character portrayal).

The biological and natural mating instinct is the timeless

authority that guarantees something like social development

wouldn’t throw nature off it’s course (although it’s now

being threatened).

Everyone knows how to reproduce; we don’t have to be taught

(Return to Blue Lagoon). Social influence has just gotten in

the way. It has confused some men so much that they wonder

if they were ever meant to reproduce or go through the

mating ritual. This is a very true reality for many men.

And yet woman will often end up with jerks and losers

instead who are fearless and strong in natural character

because they’re the closest options available to her

attraction response ideal (of how she ‘feels’ when she’s

with him). Basically our biology is stronger than our social


And nice guys everywhere will just not get what’s going on

and they will remain confused and disparately powerless or

less than they could be most of their adult lives unless

they really find their own path through the mire.

The answer lies in discovering what society has hidden from

him. It’s not in being the wife-beater t-shirt guy, it’s

about being a man of character; a man who is comfortable in

his own skin and can handle (and please) women without

having to say a word.

This is what women want. A real man. One who is respectful

but never panders to women or let’s them violate his own

(respectful) boundaries. The fact that women have become

more demanding today just makes real relationships harder

but I’m teaching attraction and not ‘dating’ or marriage.

I don’t know when the dating experts will EVER catch up but

they are right about one thing (which is skewed by the

seduction experts); women WANT men to be themselves.

The way seduction experts see it is if you just ‘be

yourself’ you will fail with women so you have to basically

turn yourself into someone you’re not just in order to get

the end result (usually sex).

The way I see it is that men are NOT really being themselves

in the first place. This is where the problem lies; society

has diminished a man’s own sense of masculinity,

independence and his place in the world in relation to

everything else..it’s all watered down so that he has become

a man of lower character and almost unable to instill the

attraction response in women.

It seems the only men that women are ‘attracted to’ (we’re

not talking about what society says she wants about marrying

a ‘nice guy’, etc.) are the bad boys and jerks who used to

be social outcasts.

Why is this so? Simply because the other men aren’t stepping

up to the plate anymore. Our grandfathers were men of high

natural character.

And the men like this that are balanced and high in

character, they’re taken right away by women or in the

greatest demand. This balanced man is rare to find today; a

man who can be himself, has qualities that women want and

isn’t afraid or intimidated of being around beautiful women.

In more scientific terms, men today have become the response

to women as the stimulus (in empowered, forced reality

cultures because the whole world is NOT like this). The

natural reality of attraction (and the MATING not dating

sequence) is that men are the stimulus to which women will

respond to.

A woman will do things to look good so that men will ‘pick

her’ but their relationship or not rests on HER response to

HIM and not how he thinks she looks. She has to sift through

the men of different character to decide.

The men who have the most success with women anywhere have a

high level of ‘character’ in any of the three areas I define

in my free ebook; his natural, independent and social


Good news for men is that women KNOW to respond to men of

high natural character and pick them out of the crowd.

Unfortunately for many women, that means they’ll keep

irrationally choosing to sleep with bad boys who aren’t

emotionally healthy until more guys like us come along.

In fact high social status men wonder if a women are just

using them for their money/power or not (ie. what Jay-Z raps


Women know when a man is who his body says he is; it’s hard

to ‘trick’ her intuition about whether he can give her the

indescribable psychosexual response that only a man of high

natural character can give her (few men reach this level but

about all could).

She is extrapolating and judging men just as harshly as men

judge women. This is a whole area I get into in my free

downloadable ebook on the website.

These physiologically and emotionally based decisions she

makes about men will overrule her strong social influences;

her body and physiological desire can’t resist.

And if a good man can just develop himself and his own

character, he can have great consistent success with women

(while respecting them) and when he does want to settle down

he can find a good woman from many options.

For women, there could be more options of ‘real men’ and

they will stop choosing the bad boy or jerks when they

finally have the option of stable guys who have healthier

character (with just as much natural connection and ability

to please her as the bad boys).

Women will be grateful because there would be more real men

so they don’t have to fight over them as much or be as

lonely. Men just have to become men of higher character and

improve themselves in the 3 areas that matter to women. This

CAN be done with the right resources to bring a man into his

natural destiny.

When a man can be more of himself at all times and he can

communicate with women that he is a man (nonverbally and

verbally) who is not ashamed of who he is; she can respect

this and will know where he stands on her

interest/attraction level (hint; he has a good chance).

And the further he communicates that he really IS the man

she idealized, the easier everything will be to take things

to a connected interdependent experience.

She’s the one who will make the choice and decision of

whether anything’s going to happen so it’s up to a man to

help her out there. Most guys fail before they start by not

being what women want and not following the natural order of


For a naturally successful man who has lots of options of

women he can take his pick but it’s still the woman who are

(eagerly) choosing to be with him.

She can’t tell a man to be ‘more of a man’, he just has to

be that man and then can have all the success he dreams of

with much less dependency on the words to say because he

will be operating from where HIS power lies, his natural

character and ability to make women swoon despite his other

personal faults.

This is about something more important than a quick-fix,

this is about bringing balance back to the force of male and

female relationships.

So my advice is for men to become their true selves of high

character potential and strength in all three areas

(natural, independent/personality and social) which will

henceforth fix almost ALL of their other problems with

attracting and succeeding with women they once were


It’s all about the man and developing his character so that

women will respond (to his characteristics as the stimulus)

the way she dreams of responding when she finds this kind of


That is the underlying current in this crazy, mixed up world

that is still the source of pure hope and life throughout

most cultures. It’s up to a man to embrace and represent the

characteristics of his nature and self that will drive women


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